61 13... Circular connector, 20-pin, system D2.5
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Special tools required:
Carefully press back retaining tabs (1) of internal connector (2).
Turn internal connector (2) until retaining lugs (1) snap into release groove (3).
With special tool 61 0 303 press down retaining hook (4) of corresponding contact and pull out cable.